Not Alone

This site is nothing but a virtual coliseum where you are thrown to the center of an arena and have to endure the beasts of judgement, victim shame and negativity. With the exception of a few people that still show some decency and compassion, most people there have unilateral, biased views, and are very hasty judging strangers based solely on the "tip of the iceberg" they are allowed to see through the stories that are posted. It gives the impression they are on the site just to externalize their frustrations. People go there because they are in a state of emotional fragility, but are stripped naked by the community and left even worse than they arrived. If you are prone to depression and have suicidal ideation, then you really need to stay away.

I don't wish the experience I had there to anyone. I don't even have words to describe how defeated I felt. In the current moment of the world, with so many people feeling vulnerable for all kinds of reasons, what this community of "supporters" do is to spread more emotional harm, and they seem not to care a bit. My advice is that you look for a more qualified group for support. Protect yourself from eNotAlone.

I don't recommend this forum. This is one of the worst places to seek support and advice. I was looking for a supporting community, with some outside perspectives on my situation, but I only obtained so much negativity. Most users there blame and shame you for your situation and even your dating experiences. They talked to me like I was a bad or dumb person, unable to make the right decisions for myself: why are you falling for such people? Don't you want to be happy? They never loved you / they used you / played you / are bad people. I looked for other threads, same messages for everyone who is asking for help. They are very critical and judgmental about you or your partners, without even knowing anything about you. They always try to drag people down in their miserable life. Asking strangers who were hurt in their relationships is definitely a bad idea. Successful people don't waste their time in such forums. Never surround yourself or listen to negative people, it will never make you achieve anything. EnotAlone users are rude and negative. They will only tell you to give up (as they probably did in their own life), that your situation is bad, had no other solutions than cutting contact and giving up, and will make insulting commentaries about you. They failed in their relationships, they don't want others to succeed where they have failed. And, last point, you CAN'T DELETE your old posts or you have to PAY for this, seriously? Paying for privacy? I didn't know this, and I am so mad at the admins for this rule. I would appreciate some anonymity and privacy in a supposed anonymous forum, especially concerning so sensitive and personal topics (relationships, breakup, abuses). Having the possibility to delete old posts on Internet is very important. It should be a right, not something to pay for. Some users found my old posts (published years ago) and use these informations against me, to shame me on my past relationships. It was rude, not helpful at all. Run away from this community!

I wouldn't recommend this community to anyone, and agree with what the other reviewers had to say. Other than a few decent users who empathize (God bless them!), the people I've encountered are critical and judgemental, and try to project their reality and failures onto others. They don't seek to bring other people up. Rather, they shame them, try to point out their flaws, and how their reality actually is (no one is interested, they should give up, that didn't really happen). This is the kind of negative advice I was given back when I was an open book and shared vulnerabilities to people at low-end jobs and on the streets. The vultures are the ones who spend all their time dragging people down under the guise of being helpful. As others mentioned, they are cowards and bullies. Those who are happy and successful are out there enjoying life, being around friends, making things happen.

The only thing I learned is to not seek advice from unsuccessful people. That's all you'll find here. They will relate every story you have with their own failures. They ensure they're "not alone" by dragging other people down with them. If you happen to point out your successes and try to feel good about yourself, they will claim you are egotistical, only want attention, and are making up lies. Because since they are unable to succeed, no one else can. As with most toxic people, they like to reiterate each other's critical viewpoints to prove that the victim (which they are supposed to be helping) is wrong and flawed, and need to work on themselves and accept responsibility, while they project an aura of superiority over them. If you disagree of their views over yourself, they become defensive. Surely you know yourself better than a random stranger would.

Luckily, I learned from the past and dished it all right back. That pretty much shut them up (it always does when dealing with bullies), and unlike some of the other reviewers, I was never banned. Still wouldn't recommend it and am not going back.

Same issues as another reviewer. I had a horrible experience on this so called support forum. I went there for support around abuse and confused and conflicted feelings in my marriage. What I got I in reply from members was victim blaming and victim shaming mean responses. "You're just playing victim!" " you're looking for attention!" When I am in fact an abuse victim in my marriage seeking help in the abuse section of the forum. Well screw all of you miserable people! I am beaten up enough by many people in life and I certainly don't need that kind of response! I also had a run in with this Hollyj member. She was one of the ones who had said I was playing victim. Then when I protested and reacted to these mean comments by calling people out? A mod banned ME for "trolling". I was there for real help and certainly was not "trolling". $#*! all of you and go to hell. Please shut this site down!

I've circulated this website a few times because its supported by Tapatalk so participating is easier on mobile devices.

However, some of the moderators or older users can be extremely nasty. Someone mentioned HollyJ and I can say I've had a terrible experience with her.

I really want that forum removed from the internet because it attracts a lot of vulnerable people and brings them right into the arms of bitter anonymous users looking to put in their 2 cents in a mean way... its boarderline cyberbullying and I'm curious if anyone has inflicted harm on themselves because of the lack of compassion in a place where people are being vulnerable seeking help. I've been harassed in my inbox. For example, I posted about an ex and one of the users decided to PM me and harass me, accuse me of being weak and everything under the sun.

I also want to say that the overall website system is crappy as well. The mods will ban accounts for no reason. They'll lock accounts for no reason. I'm assuming these serial posters are mods and they have the ability to block users because if there's a thread they're not interested in responding to/they don't know how to, they'll lock the thread or block the user.

It's really a circus filled with really nasty unqualified individuals. I would reccomend LipstickAlley, it's a younger crowd but way more compassionate.

I think that this site is cyberbullying at it's finest, only it's the platinum members that give "advice" that will bully you. A bunch of nasty people who in my opinion give terrible nasty advice. I'm not even sure of their qualifications other than being bitter and wanting to take it out on vulnerable people who stumble into this site. I would be interested to learn the qualifications of these platinum advice givers. Especially look out for hollyj the no life 17K post member who I felt harassed by. She trolled my post then turned around and called me a troll when I did nothing at all but make a post. I felt ganged up on but a bunch of trashy people for writing one post about my situation. She wouldn't get off of my post after I asked her to a few times. Thin-skinned awful people, not anyone I would want advice from.

I don't care if Arman the owner responds to this. Your site stinks and it's full of a bunch of bullies this site should be removed from the internet entirely.

It's an outlet for censorship and dictatorial rules.

If you are vulnerable and are looking for breakup advice do not go here it might be detrimental to your mental health.

Cyberbullying is illegal in our schools and should not be encouraged on sites like this. You don't know who is asking questions and how vulnerable they are. Those platinum members need to get a life and be banned for life from the site.

P.S. The site will not let you delete an account or post either. They won't even do it for you. If you need to delete a post and with it your account. Break one of their many rules. Send one of the platinum members that harrassed you a message. I told HollyJ she was a harassing troll in a message and bang I was banned for life for myself being a troll somehow. Your account and posts will be gone instantly.

I am an old Loveshack.org member, and was looking for a new community since it shut down.

Found eNotAlone and was so happy to find a potential new community, so I created an account. A message popped up saying I was banned for having multiple accounts. This seemed weird to me, since I had never seen the site before, so I tried again. Again, banned. Finally I tried with my old Hotmail email address and found that I had an old account from 2007 where I had made 2 posts. Being that this was 11 years ago, I had totally forgotten about this account, which they also banned for being associated with the IP that made the new accounts.

I contacted admin, fully expecting a compassionate adult conversation about the misunderstanding (this is a support site, right?), and instead got the most NASTY email replies telling me I'm forever banned, that I'm not reading what he's saying, etc etc.

He didn't even listen to me or offer any sympathy. I actually recommended eNotAlone to my old Loveshackers here on Sitejabber, and I will be amending that review. Heartless Admin. I'm just looking for a support community, and I think I made that very clear.

When I find a better forum, I will post it on here.

Shame on you eNotAlone. You have made me feel more alone than ever.